The Shame Block

I’ve felt like a complete idiot for most of my entire life. One of the first conscious moments I can remember that shame enveloped me, without any prior (in my mind) occurrence ,was when I was a child in school.

I was either watching something or reading something I thought was extremely beautiful. I remember the first thought that came to mind. “I could never do that.”

I didn’t know why I felt that way, and perhaps it was just a case of childlike ignorance. Although we usually think of children as beings who embody imaginative freedom, they are often exalted beyond the bounds of the adult structured, rigorously pushed into a realm of comfort.

I found myself in this place as a young child. I never ever thought I could do anything great.

What was it? A false story. A false story I told myself because for some reason when I saw something positive, it made me feel bad about myself. Not only does this ruin your own life, but it is also quite selfish.

We’re taking things that we percieve as great from others, and we are making it inherantly negative. It’s not our fault. Shame keeps us small, it keeps us quiet. The truth of it is that it is useless.

In Spirituality we always talk about the abundance of the world. How safe and protected and peaceful we can be. It’s not something that’s just given to us though.

Abundance is our birthright, but it is both our right and in the work we have to do on this planet.

The Laws of Nature state that there is always enough to go around. Whether that looks like living on your parents couch, or sleeping under a bridge. You’re still alive.

Not having enough would look like living in abject poverty, starving, or being in a war torn state, unable to leave. It’s disastrous, and one of the main reasons why humans can inhibit on natures true abundance of sanctity.

The problem with shame though, is that it blocks us from having more than enough in our lives because it inhibits us (illusion) from taking action.

This has looked to me like having big aspirations, lots of dreams, and a shit ton of internal work.

If I could just become the kind of person to have it I’d just have it though. That doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with me. I can see the nature of this post is quite paradoxical but that is the point.

Life is inherantly paradoxical.

We deserve more, but we don’t just get it because we do.

We have to put ourselves in that position.

Create the streams of income.

Accept ourselves as we are, and as the world is.

Get out of the shame spiral.

The secret key to unblocking shame?

Lifestyle changes that promote self confidence.

Stop making promises you won’t keep.

Small goals that you can rely on yourself to complete.

Love you. If you struggle with shame don’t be shy - Spill the deets in the comments.

Shame doesn’t like when you talk about it, and it;s high time we stop listening.